Tips on Having a Healthy Sex Life


Unlike some of my other more conservative friends, I am not necessarily “all in” on saving sex for marriage. I definitely feel like sex is a genuinely fun activity that makes life all the more enjoyable, and thus people should not feel forced into waiting until marriage to enjoy such pleasures (although you are certainly free to do so if that aligns with your own personal views and beliefs). In fact I would even go as far as saying that being promiscuous is not always a bad thing and can be a very freeing lifestyle choice, especially while you are still young and learning about yourself.

However, living that sort of lifestyle, or any lifestyle in which you actively engage in sex, needs to be done in a way that doesn’t damage yourself both in the physical sense, not to mention the emotional and mental sense as well. Having lived a relatively promiscuous lifestyle when I was younger (especially during my college days), I know quite a few tips to help promote a healthy sex life, and that’s what I am going to be sharing with you today!

To start off, sex isn’t all about being with another person physically, even if that is what you may have been taught growing up. Masturbation is a highly effective way of achieving sexual pleasure without bringing in another human into the picture, especially when coupled with sex toys to help enhance the pleasure even further. If you are particularly averse towards potentially getting sexually transmitted infections, solo masturbation is the absolute safest way to go.

But even if you do want to venture out and enjoy actual sex, you can still keep yourself from getting infected by selecting your sexual partners carefully (because contrary to popular belief, condoms are not 100% effective in preventing the transmitting of infections). Before you engage in any sexual activity with a partner for the first time, make sure that they either have been tested for and cleared of any sexually transmitted infections, or that they are a virgin. And if you have been sexually active before, you should also be willing to get tested yourself, for their sake.

If you and your sexual partner are not exclusive with one another, then it would also be advisable to have them tested on a semi-regular basis, especially if you know they have been with someone else since you last saw them.

From an emotional standpoint, it is important not to get into bed with someone who doesn’t respect you as a person. Even if they are the sexiest person on the planet, if they do not treat you with respect, then they will only leave you emotionally scarred in the end, particularly when it comes to your own self-image. Also always make sure that you are both on the same page about what the “relationship” is, whether it is purely sexual or if there are any romantic feelings coming from either side, as this will help prevent any sort of heartbreak as a result of one party not reciprocating he romantic feelings of the other party.

Sex is something that should be enjoyed whenever possible, as long as you aren’t sacrificing your health along the way. So be sure to keep these various tips in mind, and your sex life will not just be enjoyable, but truly healthy as well.

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