From Frustration to Transformation; Using Our Voices for Good

Nursing has given me many things, but one of the best is the opportunity to work alongside and subsequently share life with some amazing humans. Natasha is no exception. We met in a PICU in Upstate New York where I was drawn to her immediately by her fierce advocacy, broad clinical knowledge, type-A patient care, and charming sense of humor.

Natasha is one of those people I turn to when I am frustrated by work and need a little perspective. Over the past few years we have had amazing discussion about nursing and its future. This past week was no different.

Following the incidents of Stethoscopegate and the public response of nurses sharing their pride and the details of what they do, her response to me was simple; Finally she said.

Write about it! I told her, and so she did.

Below please find my good friend Natasha’s reply to The View, but more importantly, her response to nurses. We proved this week that our passion is fierce and our voice is loud. Let’s keep using it.


Honestly, I don’t even know who Joy Behar is, or Michelle Collins for that matter. If we’re being truthful, before last week I didn’t know there was a talent section of the Miss America contest.

I do know the best ventilation settings for a child who has almost drowned, and I do know exactly how quickly the amazing team I work with can get a child onto a life saving ECMO machine in an emergency.

These are the things that I know.

I also know that the sad and pathetic attempt at comedy these two women displayed has finally sparked that pissed off, won’t stand for it, “I’m not just a nurse” outrage that is long, oh so long, overdue.

I started out as a critical care nurse, without a single clue in the world as to what I was doing. Now, years later, I’ve completed a Masters in Nursing Administration, and learned from so many amazing mentors the potential that being a nurse holds.

Nursing has introduced me to some of the most knowledgeable, powerful, and passionate people I know.

But here we are, a united group that spends each and every day of our professional lives advocating for others, yet we fail continually to advocate for ourselves.

Over the past week we have heard from oncology and ICU nurses, from clinic nurses and school nurses, nurses who work in the hospital, and those who work in the home. The list is endless because the variety of nurses is endless.

What is the common feature in all of these messages?

It is that finally something has motivated people to stand up and speak out about this amazing, rewarding, but sometimes harder-than-hell profession.

Like most nurses I know, I’ve sat in my car and cried my eyes out more times than I care to count, then wiped my eyes, put on a smile and walked in the house.

I’ve come home and snapped at my boyfriend or family for something trivial after being degraded by a patient’s family all day.

I smile and nod politely when people ask about my job and I divulge that I’m a pediatric critical care nurse and they gasp, “I don’t know how you do it.”

Because you know, sometimes I don’t know either.

If I asked you to Google some of the machines the children I care for are attached to your stomach would turn. I can promise you walking to the morgue with a beautiful baby who has been taken too soon from this world does not equate to a good nights sleep.

Yet somehow, someway, we are all back the next day to fight just as hard for the next life in our hands.

The resilience, integrity, and passion forming the foundation of nursing around the world, is what makes this career so gratifying. To work side by side everyday with colleagues who give every inch of their heart and soul into the work they do, is such a privilege, but I still struggle to fathom why this amazing group doesn’t demand better.

Missed lunch breaks, full bladders, and holidays spent at work are amongst the usual martyr-like reflections that you hear when nurses are being praised. While some of these are unavoidable, some of them are unacceptable.

Dig deeper into this scenario and you find that it only grows grimmer. Nursing fatigue, the increasing incidence of workplace violence, growing patient ratios, and a decline in the value of nursing education in light of cost saving are just a few of the issues that should be on the forefront of our minds.

As an aspiring nursing leader, and a passionate nurse, I want to reach out to each and every one of you posting a proud photo and ask you to use that frustration to be a part of a transformation. To lead our healthcare system to a future where the nursing profession is not overlooked, overworked, and undervalued to the point that we continue to lose incredible individuals to other career paths.

So forget Joy Behar and her mindless colleagues, forget the battle of the “doctors’ stethoscope” and let us instead use this momentum and the passion that has ignited amongst nurses nationwide to make a real change, a meaningful change for the nurses of today, and the future generations to follow.


Natasha Yeates RN, BSN, MSN is a Registered Nurse in a Pediatric Intensive Care Unit.

Do you have something you want to say about nurses? I am a long time believer that it is up to us to share our stories. Give it a try! Tell me what it is about nursing that makes you passionate, what do you wish was different? What do you wish people knew about your daily work?

Email responses to the address provided in the Contact Kateri section. I would love to start sharing some of them!

“Just Words” Some Thoughts from Suzanne Gordon

I had the opportunity to meet Suzanne two years ago. I was thrilled since I had been reading her books for years. We agreed to cross post each other’s thoughts on the events of the past week involving The View. Her first post can be found Here. Believe me, it is worth the read!

Yesterday she added the post below. Suzanne has a way of answering the questions you were silently thinking. As you read it, nurses, think of how you felt this week. Think of why Kelley Johnson’s words resonated with you. And think of other times that someone’s words made you feel just.


I have been told that some nurses think the comments made on The View about nurses aren’t important.  They are just words.  Indeed, they are.  But let’s not forget that just like a nurse is not just a nurse, words are not just words.  Words are not a jumble of letters on a page.  Words are how we put into language what we think.  When Joy Behar used the words “a doctor’s stethoscope” the problem wasn’t the 18 letters that left her mouth.  The problem was the thought, the attitudes those words reflected.  Those thoughts were surely that physicians do the important work and nurses, well they just just….  These attitudes stand behind all the decisions that we make about patient care.  For example, many patients think doctors are the ones to go to when they have questions about their illness,and  that nurses have nothing to offer.  Policymakers think nurses are just extensions of the physician’s brain.  Think of the term “physician-extender.”  Where does that come from?  It comes from the same kind of thinking that makes people use words like the “doctor’s stethoscope.”

Words like “girl,” to describe nurses conjures up images — thoughts that turn into actions.  Do girls need to be well paid?  Do girls have fully developed brains? Are girls able to think on their own, for themselves?  Do they have their own knowledge?  Certainly not!  Just as girls need to be supervised and guided by parental wisdom, nurses are conceptualized as needing a big daddy — or now big mommy — to help them make it through the day.

Nurses should never doubt the power of their words and actions.  The commitment of nurses like those at #nursesunite to respond to these negative comments with their own words has resulted in the loss of two advertisers to The View.

So yes, the things that people say, or write are indeed just words.  But words make a difference.  Like nurses, they can be a matter of life and death.

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Additionally, Suzanne is holding a Just a Nurse contest! You can find more information Here. Give it a shot, how do you put into words what it is that you do?  As Suzanne said “What precisely we pay nurses thousands of dollars a year to do is a mystery to most people like Behar and Collins.”

Let’s try to fix that. Telling our stories is a start, learning to share what it is that makes us nurses is a good first step.

An Open Letter to Joy Behar

As many of you have seen, Miss Colorado delivered a beautifully spoken monologue about nursing during last week’s Miss America pageant. Recently, on The View as the pageant was discussed, Miss Colorado’s scrubs were referred to as a costume, and Joy posed the question of why she was wearing a “doctor’s stethoscope.” Below is my now calmed down reply to all of it. Additionally, I would like to personally and publicly congratulate Kelley Johnson RN on her chosen talent, it is one that will reward you forever. 

Dear Joy Behar,

A beautiful woman in a beauty pageant put on baggy clothes and humbly walked across the stage to talk proudly about her career, and her passion for caring for other human beings, and the only thing you and your co hosts could muster in response were insults grounded in ignorance.

Rather than being offended or getting angry, I will instead, take a moment to teach.

I am a big believer that the first step in resolving ignorance is education. So allow me, for a moment, to educate you.

The stethoscope is a medical device used to auscultate (that means listen to) the inner workings of your patient. (read; heart, lungs, and bowel)

Doctors do this when they examine their patient.

So does the Respiratory Therapist.

The Physician Assistant.

The Nurse Practitioner.

And the Nurse.

The average patient in the hospital will be examined by their doctor every 24 hours. The Respiratory Therapist likely stops by at least every eight hours. And the nurse, she or he is probably in the room hourly, with that stethoscope on the chest and abdomen at least every four hours. In the ICU this occurs hourly, at minimum.

By unwritten laws of use-equals-ownership, it seems to me that maybe it should be called a nurse’s stethoscope.

But that isn’t necessary, because in the hospital we know how to share. We know that we each play a role in taking care of that patient, and as a result, we just call it a stethoscope.

I encourage you and your cohosts on the View to learn more about nurses and to teach your viewers the same. To begin, there are close to 3 million of us in America. By numbers, we make up the largest proportion of the health care team. Well over half of us are women, although this trend is quickly changing.

Remember how I said the doctor may only see a patient once in a 24 hour period? They are able to do that because they can trust the nurses to assess (there’s that stethoscope again) in their absence, and alert them of any issues that may arise. If you have questions when the doctor leaves the room, your nurse will answer. If you are afraid your father is disoriented when you leave each evening, don’t worry, the nurse and the nursing assistants will gladly keep him calm, comfortable, and safe.

Your hospitalized child is suddenly unable to breathe? Gasping, coughing? Don’t worry, the nurse will listen, the respiratory therapist will listen. The doctor, will run from near, or maybe very far; to assist and make a plan. But while they are on their way, you will be very glad someone else in the room knows how to use that stethoscope!

A woman in a beauty pageant put on baggy clothes and walked on stage to talk about her job, and all that a woman who is paid to sit at a table and gab could come up with was insults.

That wasn’t a sad moment for nurses. It was a sad moment for women, and I for one, am embarrassed, not angry. As a supposed advocate for women, I just ask that you learn and you choose your words more carefully before attempting to degrade and minimize the work of millions.

Because despite your lack of understanding and your silly remark, we will be ok.

Because like other formerly quiet groups in America, we nurses are finally finding our voice.

We are the people who not only listen to the heartbeat of people you love, but it is our work that personifies the heartbeat that America was built on, exemplifying the caring, compassion, and selflessness that we need more of in this country.

This is our voice, and there are 3 million of us that you will not be able to keep quiet.

Warm wishes,


Kateri in the Kitchen

Hello faithful readers! I am sorry for my absence, as I have been inconsistent in my writing for over a year now. This isn’t goodbye to According to Kateri, I plan to still come here and write when I have something to say, something for you to read and hear.

But in the meantime, I have found a way to channel my love for writing with my complete love for cooking! So if you feel so inclined, please come visit me at Kateri in the Kitchen. I hope to see you there!

The Fall

I always hated sledding. That feeling, in the moment, when you can’t bring air into your lungs as you move quickly, downhill, through space. Everything is rushing so fast that, on your own, you feel as though you lack the strength to bring in a single breath.

It feels like falling.

That split second when you have no control, there is nothing to grab onto, to stabilize you. You are a helpless victim of gravity and speed.

I hate it.

I have written before about falling. About the fear we have of the fall. But I have always written about it afterwards, from the comfort of looking back and seeing that everything has fallen into place. When you look back and realize the fall wasn’t so bad, so far, so long.

But what about the moments of the fall? The dark moments when the tunnel never seems to end, when your reality, your comfort, your heart are ripped away.


When although you know the fall won’t last forever, you also understand that the falling into place may not bring you back to the reality you never wanted to leave?

What then?

How do we survive the actual fall? And how do we comfort others through it? Without relying on burning clichés that hurt more than help.

How do you tell a mother her child is in a better place, when the best place, until this moment, has always been in her loving arms?

What about the elderly woman who is content to be through with new adventures, content with the way things now are? How do you put a positive spin on losing her independence? How can you say her life isn’t over, when part of it really is?

The reality is this, the fall is terrifying, it leaves us helpless, hopeless, afraid, and sometimes, even broken. We never know when it will end or how. All we really know is that it hurts. The falling hurts, and the landing can too.

So when people around you are falling, show up. Let them be afraid, disarmed, and angry. Let them complain, scream, and cry. Allow them to hate the fall, and curse the rearrangement their life has fallen into.

Stay present, with open arms and closed mouths.

The child may surely be in a better place, the next phase may truly be a new adventure. But for now, the new reality just hurts.

I hate sledding.

I hate falling.

But I am learning to stand by and watch, with open arms and silent prayers, as the people I love fall, their situations rearrange, and our lives move on slowly, to realities we never imagined.

Our Voice

I can’t imagine not having a voice.

I said to my fiancé as we made our way through an exhibit at the Museum of the City of New York this past February.

I don’t think anyone can imagine YOU not having a voice.

He replied lovingly as he planted a kiss on my forehead.

We were making our way through an exhibit of the history of activism in New York City. We stood in front of a large display detailing the timeline and efforts of the Suffragettes in Upstate New York. For whatever reason, it suddenly hit me that in the not too distant past, in towns similar to the one I grew up in, women were rallying to fight to have a voice that mattered.

I began to feel emotional, overwhelmed. My mind started racing as I imagined myself without a voice that mattered, lucky at best to have a husband who would allow me some say into the opinions he would share publicly. As I looked at the dates it suddenly felt so recent, so close.

I started to think of nurses. How so many of us are women. Is that maybe why our voices have struggled to rise above the crowd?

As my thoughts tornadoed through my mind, we continued on to the next wall of the exhibit.

I read about the Henry Street Settlement and Lillian Wald, a young nurse who moved to one of New York City’s poorest immigrant neighborhoods at the turn of the 20th Century. She worked to provide services to the underserved, the women and children who had no money to pay doctors. Her organization is still alive and well, serving those without healthcare in Manhattan’s Lower East Side.

I learned that through Lillian’s work the concepts of visiting nurses were born. Families were seen in their own environments and taught how to prevent illnesses and their spread through the cramped impoverished tenement housing of that time.

I learned about the movement of Public Health Nurses, eventually starting a professional nursing organization to solidify their cause. The infant mortality rate was addressed by young nurses who evaluated causes for infant deaths and worked to educate families, many of whom were new to the United States.

Over and over again I saw examples of how nurses had a voice. It had been used to speak for those that no one would listen to.

I left the exhibit not with the sunken feeling I had gotten from the Suffragettes, but rather, with a new found hope and confidence that I have come from a long line of outspoken advocates.

For the years since I became a nurse, I have gone into Nurse’s Day or Nurse’s Week, hoping that this year would be the year we would finally find our voice.

Today, that feels different. You see, we have already found our voice; it has been heard loudly and clearly time and time again. But in the nature of what our profession deserves, we have used it to speak for our patients rather than ourselves. Our voice has brought changes, dignity, and healing to the patients we serve. And that is something that makes me beam with pride.

Perhaps our voice is the strongest, the loudest of them all, because it speaks not for ourselves, but for those we care for.

Something a Little Different

A few months ago, following my most recent HuffPost article I was contacted by a fellow nurse blogger to be featured in a segment she does about nurses around the country. Eileen is a nurse now living in San Francisco and focusing her energy on teaching, speaking, and coaching. She leads seminars and maintains a blog focusing on meditation, mindfulness, and the hardest of all; balance.
I took the opportunity to answer her questions. I felt like a learned a lot about myself trying to think through my answers. Furthermore, as I considered balance and my need for it, I realized that I am finally in a place where I feel like I am figuring it out.
The good news is that it has left me more relaxed, rejuvenated, and rewarded in my personal life. The bad news is that I have not felt as obligated to write, which was nice at first, but as the whirlwind job transition, holiday season, and big personal events of recent months come to a close, I am finding myself missing it. I promise to be back to you soon.
But in the meantime, please take a moment to check out Eileen’s blog. I have included the link to my interview here.
If you have questions of your own you would like me to answer, do not hesitate to leave them in the comment section! I would love to answer them for you!

Until then, keep calm and balance on!